I placed my child for adoption a few weeks ago and must say the experience has been filled with a variety of feelings. Although separation from a loved one especially your newborn child is not the easiest thing to do, from my personal experience it’s not the hardest either. The wonderful feeling of joy afterward overwhelmed the temporary sadness following the separation.
Not to mention being blessed with the most amazing and supportive adoptive parents for my child.
You know someone wise once said to me that anyone can have a baby and love them, but to do what’s really best for the baby and you is the true gift of love.
Since the adoption, I’ve become someone I never knew before. I’m so proud of myself and I’m so happy that I made a family’s dream come true by giving them a baby, my baby. Now that’s a feeling so wonderful words almost cannot explain. All of my family and friends are very supportive, in admiration of me. They tell me how brave I was and how sweet and selfless an act it was to place my baby for adoption. I mean in some weird way, I’m like a heroine. Some of my friends have told me that they wish they had the courage to do the same.
At the age of 36, I faced an unplanned pregnancy from a one night stand. I had three children who all lived with me. Another baby would have been too much for me, a single mother. I was working but I was already having a hard time providing for the family that I have. It’s not only about the finances, there’s a lot more to it. I chose adoption and even though it was hard I never regretted my decision.. Just because a decision is really hard doesn’t mean it is the wrong decision. Adoption was the best choice I could make for my baby’s future and the future of my other kids.
I can’t thank ASC enough for all the help they gave me. They really helped me explore my options so I could make decisions for my baby and me. When I first met with my caseworker, I told her that I didn’t want to choose or meet a family and I didn’t want to spend any time with my baby at the hospital. I guess I thought it would be easier if I kept detached from it all. My caseworker never tried to change my mind, but she did present some reasons other biological moms choose to do those things. After hearing what she had to say, I took time to think about it and was able to make decisions that really gave me peace of mind.
Becky and Tim
When my husband and I found out I was pregnant again, we were shocked and not sure what do. We considered abortion but frankly, when I went to the abortion clinic, I knew I couldn’t do it. We already had 2 children and with the economy and other circumstances in our life parenting another child was out of the question. Thanks to Adoption by Shepherd Care, we found the perfect family to adopt our daughter. We keep in touch with the family through the agency and get pictures regularly. We shared openly with our other kids and they knew that we had a baby for someone who couldn’t have a baby. We all look forward to getting the pictures that the family sends us.
I first heard about Adoption by Shepherd Care from a cell mate at jail. You probably wonder what I did to get there—that’s another story but the point is, here I was in jail, pregnant and didn’t know who the father of the baby was. I loved my baby more than you can imagine but I wanted my baby to have something I never had-a mom and a dad. I can’t say enough good things about Adoption by Shepherd Care. They never judged me or looked down on me for where I had been or what I had done. Adoption was the hardest decision I ever made but I gave my daughter the best life I could give her with a mom and a dad. This is one decision that I can say I am proud of.
When I first called Adoption by Shepherd Care, I didn’t even know what questions to ask. My caseworker put me at ease right away. She was very caring and didn’t try to sell me the idea of adoption. She gave me a lot of information about adoption and in time I did decide that it was the best decision for me and my baby. I am so glad that I called Adoption by Shepherd Care—they helped me through the hardest time in my life.
Fourteen years ago, at age 18, I found myself pregnant. I was just getting ready to graduate high school and was planning to go on to college. My family suggested that through adoption I could plan for my child’s life and still be able to carry on with my goals and plans. Initially I didn’t think I could do it, but ultimately, I decided to place my baby for adoption with Adoption by Shepherd Care. Throughout the years, I have received pictures regularly. I still send her a birthday card every year and she knows that I made this decision because I love her and wanted the best for her. I hope that when she turns 18 I will be able to meet her.